My Situation - any thoughts or ideas

[XYZ]

Pookie, what do you mean? You left, she dealt with the depression and all lived happily ever after?

[gutwrenching]

And because we aren't trained, even if she is depressed, if could be the emotional turmoil of deciding to walk that caused the depression

Either way, it really doesn't impact your sitch

[XYZ]

No, I look back and it's been going on a long while. Well, maybe that the time she was "deciding". Who the hell can figure this out anyway? Certainly not me.

[pookie69]

Pookie, what do you mean? You left, she dealt with the depression and all lived happily ever after?

I stopped diagnosing her and bringing it up.

[XYZ]

I sure hope my W "fixes" it. And soon, but I'll be patient. She's worth it.

[pookie69]

I sure hope my W "fixes" it. And soon, but I'll be patient. She's worth it.

When they are depressed you are the cause. That is the only thing I never validated.

I told her that she is responsible for her own happiness and getting rid of her depression is her own responsibility.

Never spoke about it again. She ordered some happy pills but never took a single one.

While she was miserable I did my detatching thing and became happy with myself. She took notice and got better.

That part worked.

[XYZ]

Well that's my plan. When I'm around her, I Mr. Happy, GAL, play with kids. Then I cry in my car because I had to stop at a read light. But NOT around her!

Trying to be mysterious too with my plans. And a great dad. Helping our where I can but not too much.

[pookie69]

Well that's my plan. When I'm around her, I Mr. Happy, GAL, play with kids. Then I cry in my car because I had to stop at a read light. But NOT around her!

Trying to be mysterious too with my plans. And a great dad. Helping our where I can but not too much.

Removal of pressure reduces stress.

[XYZ]

So W and I had a small miscommunication today regarding the kids. I thought I was picking them up and she thought she was. No biggie, but I sent her a TM today asking what time she was getting home because I was making plans. She thought I meant with the kids and called me because she didn't want me taking the kids every night and her not getting time with them. Cool, no problem. I said "no, I'm making plans for ME for after you got the kids" to which she replied "oh, I'm picking them up". Ok cool. No biggie.

Got a TM back from her about 20 min later "didn't mean to misinterpret - glad you're getting out".

One more small point for me....I just wish I knew if I was down 800 to 3 or if it's a close game....also wish I knew how much time was on the clock.

Really hard when you're trying to "win the race" but don't know if you're closing or losing ground, or how long the race is.

[pookie69]

Really hard when you're trying to "win the race" but don't know if you're closing or losing ground, or how long the race is.

Sometimes is better to finish the race instead of winning it.

Think about all the ones who fell or crashed.