I can’t say it as eloquently as Coach, but I see where she feels pressured and pushed by you to love you and stay in the M. It is not that she does not want to love you, or stay married to you, but she feels inclined to do so because of the pressure she feels from you. I am not sure how structured your family life is, but maybe she feels it is too constrictive and that there is not enough “free” time to pursue individual interests.
It does happen in a M when you have children that one becomes so consumed with children and family activities that they tend to lose themselves and begin to rebel. IDK this is just my gut feeling from reading what your W wrote and from reading your thread.
