No. What we are saying is. If you love her, let her go... The old saying is true. Because until you do she will hate you for keeping her trapped. Open the door and kick her butt out. Let her find out that the green grasses she seeks are covered in manure.
To answer your question. Yes at this point since it's been 3 plus years I would file and get a custody agreement in place. You need to force your hand to get back the RESPECT. Once the D process starts it can take another year or two. Plenty of time for you to become the new, stronger, confident, not going to take your crap YOU!!
