Hey IMP, Had to change my user name because a neighbor of ours was in dire straights and I told her about this site in front of W. Yes the Co has been helpful and knows what her issue's were with us and the reason she was unhappy for awhile with our R. He advised me not to talk about R and D, I blew the D part but it seems to have affected her the most since I said I would never D her. Now he also advised since the attraction/connection to me had been lost to rebuild it and if we want to spend time together than to do it. I would like to see how she acts towards me tonite, body lang, etc. But If I do it will be a short visit as I have other things to do. And yes, is this still what I want? I wanted my W or is it just the fantasy of my W? Is she really worth it anymore?
"Wow, that's a big curveball, (Wife). I'm not sure how I feel about that right now.I need to think about that. And tonite's not good for me at all -- I already have plans. Let me sleep on this, and we'll talk in the next couple of days. I won't do anything legally before then, but I just need to really think about what you've said, because I'm just not sure anymore."
Let her know your thinking not feeling thru this.
But her you go Starsky - 1/2
You stuck the landing but the Russian judge took some points off for the shaky approach.
LOL!!! Thanks Coach! I see what you mean about the "feeling" part.
hi So ashamed, As I said to IMP her issues with me were I would say normal issues that can be worked on. My issue is much larger. The fact that she had to leave me by cheating on me is not going to go away easily. It must be addressed in MC and she must get an STD test.
Only than will I feel more comfortable.
I am excited also that the fog may be lifting and OG fell on his face.
I would like to see how she acts towards me tonite, body lang, etc. But If I do it will be a short visit as I have other things to do.
That's good, but I still think you shouldn't have jumped at the first offer (to meet tonite). After all, you are a BUSY MAN, with lots of interesting things to do! You don't want to make it look like you're sitting by the phone or e-mail like a puppy dog, waiting for her to want to see you.
But I'm just an amateur -- you may want to discount all of that.
hey Starsky, There have been a couple offers before I dropped the L bomb on her. I met her only briefly a couple times, no real time spent. This will be real, quiet, us. I can still beg out at this point. So can she matter of fact..
hi So ashamed, As I said to IMP her issues with me were I would say normal issues that can be worked on. My issue is much larger. The fact that she had to leave me by cheating on me is not going to go away easily. It must be addressed in MC and she must get an STD test.
Only than will I feel more comfortable.
I am excited also that the fog may be lifting and OG fell on his face.
Well, if you read my sitch, I'm really not better than your wife, although my deviation was never physical. I would give him anything he asked for to get another chance. Tranceparency, MC, STD, etc, but so far he's not giving me another chance.
Hey Pensacola, After weeks of waffleing and her not making a decison other than keep seeeing OG I told her I tried for us and her but I was done. I had told her previously that I would never file for D. But now I said I was seeing a lawyer. That seemed to have done it. she says that she was ready to work on things 2 weeks ago but I did not hear that and got sick of her BS. Since than she must have thought I was involved with someone else because she has called the house early in the mornings. I'm not sure but she has stepped my way. Says OG is history wants to continue Co.
Hey Pensacola, After weeks of waffleing and her not making a decison other than keep seeeing OG I told her I tried for us and her but I was done. I had told her previously that I would never file for D. But now I said I was seeing a lawyer. That seemed to have done it. she says that she was ready to work on things 2 weeks ago but I did not hear that and got sick of her BS. Since than she must have thought I was involved with someone else because she has called the house early in the mornings. I'm not sure but she has stepped my way. Says OG is history wants to continue Co.
