I wish I'd understood this 6 months ago. W and I argued about $$ all the time, if I'd just said, "look you spend too much. I'm not trying to control you, but lets divide out money. I'll pay the bills out of a joint account and we can each have our oen personal accounts for spending money", it would have been such a positive move in our M.

Instead W left, and eventually said "if we get back together I want sepperate finances". I took this as "I don't want to commit". Another opportunity lost to be strong and enforce healthy boundaries.

Live and learn.

M:37
W:34
M:4 years
T:6 years
No Kids
A disclosed - 9/1/2010
W asks for separation - 10/19/2010
Moving on - 10/24/2010
A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010
Content - 3/1/2011
Served - 3/18/2011
D Day - 6/20/2011