Now I'm Walking Away Part 3

[Truegritter]

If your ploy backfires you'll be in dire straits financially and emotionally.

This ^^^^ is a good point.

My last post to you is really a change of mindset.

You don't have an affair to deal with (that we know of)

Your W is just done with you.

If you have looked in the mirror and listened to the complaints she has in her M of you, the ones that sting, the ones you can honestly admit to...

AND

YOU have honestly made those changes for YOU.

AND

You have detached and let your actions speak for you instead of words.

For a time so they can sink in.

How long? I don't know.

She is stonewalling you because she doesn't believe IMO.

She does not have faith in you.

Do you have faith in you? Do you know what you want?

If so are you prepared to do it without being assured you will get the desired result?

Time to look inside again man.

Do what you do for YOU not because of what your W will or will not do for your M right now.

If you are not capable of making THAT kind of choice then you can be honest with yourself and say that it why you don't choose to do it.

Either way this is the crossroad for you. You can make choices that align with your core and take the outcome either way.

Or

Run.

You may feel like a doormat right now as others might define it.

I say you are doormat as long as you attach your self worth to the actions or inactions of another...

When you make decisions from a faith in yourself that word "doormat" and the feeling attached to it, is in your rear view mirror...

It has no sting for you anymore.

That is what I think you are capable of (and everyone is) if you decide to find yourself through this tragedy.

In the end you only have control over your choices and that is what defines you.