WAW 20 Years. Divorce to maybe possible R

[Pensacolabroken]

sure he doesnt take Tae Kwondo does he?

[Pensacolabroken]

Wife took son to tkd asked me to pick him up at 620 wife has follow on class. I show up at 600 and see WAW chatting it with some parent and sitting next to her is EA OM. So I turn off my truck. Watch for a while and the conversation is nuetral and includes 3 or 4 people I see his body language. Calm cool blah blah. So the military guy in me says WALK in and stand there. So I did! You could have heard a pin drop. OM start squirming and shaking his foot with a nervous rapid beat. Loser. I am not impressed with him 4 a 3rd degree black belt. WAW won't even give me the courtesy of recognizing I am in the room. Kids finish son comes over to me and wife comes up and asks me to make sure he drinks and finishes his reading lesson. I smile and wave fella smile and wave. ... Hmm what to do next. ? Detach is so much easier when you see it like that. WAW was so nice. Lol

[Pensacolabroken]

I did expect them to be at the same class tonight now the mystery and what if's are gone I don't know if I care anymore.

[Pensacolabroken]

Waiting and Watching... I got home put son to bed then I went to bed. This morning WAW is ready for work tells me Happy Birthday ( I reply thanks) and then she kind of makes busy work. I tell her I only have one question from last night, Why didnt she acknowledge I was there and be polite? she said she saw me but she was nervous because she didnt know if I was going to make a scene or what ((yea I am going to go in to a TKD studio full of black belts and make a scene? It would be like that Bond Movie Golden Gun! and She isnt worth the energy or the fuss). She said in 2 years you have never come in. I told her there are lots of things I never did. I told her I will be involved with my son.

She then said okay so what else? I said nothing else. I see things like they are. I am done talking about it.

I told her I am going to put my truck up for sale this morning. I told her the cash will go into an account to pay off the lawyers for the D. She said so whatever you want.

then she says okay see you later and left for work.

She then sent me a txt asking me how much I am selling my classic Chevy for? I havent replied. I dont need to run anything through her filter anymore.

[NotFromThesePart]

Since you are still living with her, I might considder TELLING (not asking) her how much. Make it real. You have nothing to hide. You are an open book. You have made plans and now you are carrying them out. No drama.

Once you are apart, then secrecy is probably in your best interest. Just my $0.02 worth.

[Pensacolabroken]

NFTP,

good point. I told her just now.

When I deploy again, I am going to have to get seperate accounts. I dont trust her with the money.

[NotFromThesePart]

Yeah, when I get back to the states that is the FIRST thing I'm doing.

Why wait until deployment?

[sandi2]

She asked about the truck b/c she already has plans for some of that money.

[Starsky309]

She asked about the truck b/c she already has plans for some of that money.

I tend to agree with Sandi.

Starsky

[Pensacolabroken]

Yep. Agree. But she is going to wonder about it because she knows that truck USED to mean a lot to me. I loved it. Now after all this it is just "stuff" and "stuff" doesnt define me. It is easy to let go of it actually.

I think that fits with detachment.