I relate to the cave story. When I was pregnant with my baby, I needed to retreat into the cave to have her in peace and security. Instead of being outside bringing down lions so we could feast and live well, my WH was playing with the lions (OW). I felt incredibly insecure!! Now, I don't think you will find that surprising - nothing weird about feeling insecure when you are pregnant and being left by your husband - but it made me realise how much I needed my man to be.. a man! And I am a feminist, and I am very capable and independent. But we need our men to be there for us. I remember crying to WH, "But I need you to protect me and our unborn child! Why aren't you protecting us?". He must have thought I was pathetic.
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369