Love the mediation process. I was able to say everything I needed to address my concerns in our D, and what I want to accomplish through this whole process. Mediator was in tune with what I was saying and could see clearly I was the better communicator. All in all I think my W struggled a little with the info, but I don't know for sure.
W was in complete agreement during our meeting and was very pleasant when asked if she understood. It's now up to her to decide if she wants to proceed. I told her if she wants to go though with this then let me know when she pays her half and I will copperate and pay my part.
W called me about an hour after we left Mediator, she proceeded to go off about everything. I fell for some of the same old behavior and engaged in a pointless argument. Another lesson learned though. A couple of 2x4's thrown at me later made me change my attitude. (Yes I was Angry) I'm just amazed at how someone who is 43yrs old can throw a tempertantrum that rivals a 5 year old.
I will say the Mediation process is what will make me very comfortable with this very uncomfortable situation.
W had her first one on one Mediation appointment today. Not sure what went down, but I have to set up my appointment next.
My W has horrible ADD, but today I saw something that truly was a new level.
My W without fail tries to get a hold of me through email and repeatedly texts me to let me know that she emailed me. I don't understand why, nor do I try to. However, today was the most a**backwards thing I have seen in awhile.
She emailed me "I Text you". Huh? So I looked at the text and it was a long email like text. Huh? What in the world is going on in her head? Nevermind...I don't want to know...I might die in there. Just thought I'd share this.
W had her first one on one Mediation appointment today. Not sure what went down
Are you scared? Com'on tell me the truth...are you?
If so, why? And if not, why?
Hey btw, still got that shovel? Just kidding
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Scared...yeah i know that feeling. Know what? Letting go and letting be is a tough fuc*ing place to get to. Once there though, these feeling of being scared start to go away. You start to really realize just who and what you control. It is freedom buddy. Freedom to just be. Freedom from fear.
FTR, I am not completely there yet BUT I'm getting there. Slowly it comes and with it comes a tremendous amount of peace.
Oh...can you meet me in CT in 15 days at around midnight...bring the 4 wheeler and the shovel. I need a hand with something. LOL.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
There has been some GREAT posts the last couple of days.
I want to read a debate on the whole Setting Them Free vs Standing for your Vows.
Personally, I'm not divorcing my W, she is divorcing me. I'm not standing in her way and I'm not trying to do anything other than focus on my happiness.
Just in the last week I've realized how much I have changed and how my attitude is with others. It's brought intense attention to me, like to the point of where I want to live my life, but I'm not divorced yet. Now that I'm giving W what she wants with no pressure other than "If you want a divorce then you are doing the work", when should I not feel guilty about pursuing someone that is interested in me? The new me?
Am I letting my life pass me by or am I standing by my vows until I am divorced?
I really would like to see several "Vets" insights/approach on this.
