Hi TH,
I know you are right... this is why I posted here so someone would beat me over the head!
One last thought, when I was speaking with JoAnn some time ago, she had advised to always let him talk about whatever he wants to talk about... am I going against this? It seems that I need to set boundaries, yet I don't want to necessarily scare the squirrel away.
It's all so maddening.

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."