So..........my H is buying a house.

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I will not sign until I get approval. I've made that clear and suggested that he contact my L. If he doesn't, and he is in breach of his contract, that's the way it is.

I've read the document. He told me it was a document that was to allow him to purchase the home while still married but assure that the debt would not be mine. From the way I read it it gives him permission to buy the home with marrital assets and states that the property would thus be marrital property, but I don't see anything about the debt not being mine.......so I will definitely get the opinion....Nothing he has done has been smart in any legal sense.

H came to pick up S11 tonight. Both girls had play practice. S likes to stay until he gets his homework done, but H came unannounced (5 minutes before our unwritten 6:00 time), and S wasn't done. He usually texts before he comes - when he comes. He has almost exclusively relied on D17 to shuttle them all back and forth. When S was visibly upset, holding back tears H suggested that S stay with me awhile longer. I didn't expect S's reaction. It is clear that although he acts as if living like this is "normal," it is affecting him. He's had an assortment of odd illnesses lately, and I'm beginning to wonder if it's stress and his coping method for being upset. Anyway, at 7:30 S said he was ready to go. I texted H. He suggested S stay with me since he was probably about ready for bed, but S said he would go-----I could tell he was torn, wanting to stay and just go to bed, but knew his dad would be disappointed. H came at 8, and seemed put out by it all - especially knowing that S was very tired and would be going to bed soon anyway.

In the beginning of all of this if one of the kids acted hesitant about leaving I would insist that they go, but I'm not going to do that anymore. However, with the new house that probably won't happen anymore.

Anyway, after a rough day, I'm doing better tonight. S helped put some things in to perspective for me. His reaction tonight reminded me once again who the real losers are in all of this. It reminded me that I need to be strong for them. I need to pull my head out of my a$$, get over the loss of my dead M and remember that I still have what is most important - 3 beautiful, perfect children.