Sorry to hear about the turn that your sitch has taken Future. I don't think all hope is lost for your W but she really needs to left alone for awhile. I have not had to deal with my X coming back and then leaving again but I can sure imagine how frustrating that would be!
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final