Abusive spouse accuses "WAW" as "the" problem

[freespirit]

thanks sunshine...that was sweet of you...I have read it...read all Patricia Evan's books; read most of the christian marriage and christian books on abusive behavior, etc..I am so tired of reading. I don't think I belong here because there is NO hope for this marriage; it is done. The only "tie" left is legal...

I think my LBS (yes, I LEFT him behind) was SO abusive that I did not walk, I ran and I am not going back. He has refused all decency and any voice of reason or counsel. I think he is Narcissistic Personality Disorder and he will "not hear" me at all...curses me (on email, I still haven't responded) and then sounds like he wants me back but doesn't have the guts to admit that he "needs" me because HE is codependent and NEEDS ME TO NEED HIM and I DON'T...I won't and I don't even want to be hear him....

He continues to curse and accuse, deny and blame and act like a total fool while I am extricating myself from his life totally(all on email, I do not respond at all)...he can accuse me all he wants; I am not listening to his manipulative drivel. He has shown his absolute LACK of love and empathy and he will have plenty of time to sit and think about things when I am only a name on a piece of paper that he will be signing. He lost me...there is no marriage here to save.

He led me to this site with the "walk away wife" syndrome article MINUS the husband's responsibility because obnviously and I KNOW for a fact that he is not willing and probably will never take responsibility for his behavior because he is mentally unable to do so...NPD...Narcissistic Personality Disorder explains my life in H with him for the past 11 years and he says that I "abused him"...leaving him alone is abuse enough for him and he will just have to live with that. NO more narcissistic supply. He can get attention elsewhere, he doesn't have mine anymore.

I understand that there is such a thing as a "walk away spouse" but I would caution everyone to take what a LBS spouse may say with a grain of salt...MY LBS maintains that he has done nothing wrong and he has NOT verbally abused me...He is deceived and a liar. He is unloving and selfish and mentally ill on top of it. There is no "amount of love" from a good woman that can cure a heart that is disobedient to God to begin with...this walk away wife had GOOD reason and NOT TOO SOON at that.