You obviously have a lot of rage in you right now and that's perfectly okay. That is what we are here for. Let it out on us and not on the MLC'r, because they really, truly can't take it right now. Not the truth, not the facts, not the history. None of it. They see what they see and that's that.
There is only one adult in this R right now, and that has to be you. So, just like a child with a tantrum, you have to lead the way. A child having a tantrum will stop once they see it is getting them no where. More so than if they are picked up and popped on the butt. Negative reinforcement. Positive reinforcement.
I am so far from being the perfect DB'r, but there are a lot of smart things here to hear and think about. But first, and I mean this in the nicest, possible way, you've got to get that chip off your shoulder, so you can move ahead.
