It is important to see what lies ahead in upcoming months John.
The professor cat lady is your savior. Ask her to bring the cat and you have weeks of undivided mothering at your bedside. Ask your W to pop in and do your dishes while the cat lady professes to her cat.
I still have dibs on the story. I can see this play out on VH1 as a mini series. The Cat Woman Professor Lady realizes that her cat is John's kryptonite keeps the cat in her pocket or rubs the cat up and down all of John's clothes so that he remains deathly ill. So John stays in bed being nursed by the Cat Woman Professor Lady for weeks.
The W comes over every day and pounds on the door, window, texts and phones him 24/7, but no answer. Poor John is helpless because of that DC (damn cat) and lies helplessly in bed while the Cat Woman Professor Lady nurses him to a faux health. John is dependent on the CWPL (got tired of writing Cat Woman Professor Lady) and fall hopelessly in love with her.
In the meantime the W finally understands the paril that John is in puts on her tights and cape and goes over to John's house and crashes the door down with her Orange Plymouth Duster. The W attacks the Cat Woman Professor Lady, but John in his state of illness, confussion and the love that he has for the Cat Woman Professor Lady fights off his W's attack.
The Cat Woman Professor Lady using a frying pan swings back to hit John's W only to knock John unconscious and he falls back on the bed. Okay I am tired of the story already. The lonag and short of the story is John's W prevails and they both ride off into the sunset in John W's Orange Plymouth Duster.
OH you guys are too much I like the joking going on here when it's not directed at me
Some of you here are totally against me dating and some of you are totally for it. I take it as a mixed bag really. But I will tell you what it has done for me.
It's make me realize that all those sh~tty little things that my W complained about are mindless. Sure, they can and are fixed, but in the grand scheme of things she doesn't have a leg to stand on emotionally for wanting this D. It's not like I emotionally abused her, or went out and screwed a bunch of other women, or something terrible like that. She just didn't like the way she felt or something with me. That doesn't make me a bad person! That doesn't make me less of a man, or even less of a human being.
Likewise, I've come to realize all the things I've wanted in a relationship that are most important to me were never fulfilled. Not a single note in my lunch. Not a sing sentimental piece of ANYTHING from my W. Not a time I can remember a physical touch where I felt truly loved. It may be shallow, but physical and emotional connection is the largest part of what I want. And she gave that away to another person.
So no, I don't feel guilty at all about dating professor lady. Not at the least. My W never met my needs, and laughed them off time after time when I tried to talk about them with her. Or, worse, she gave me pity sex and I accepted it thinking that would be the best I'd ever get.
Well, it's not going to be that way anymore. Whether that is with my W or not, I don't care. Unfortunately, I'm doubtful she could ever give that to me, and that is what has hurt most.
Right now I'm possibly embarking on a relationship with Professor Lady friend that seems much more on par with what I desire. She is extremely emotionally available, direct and open. Something I've always wanted - and with years of dealing with a 20-24 year old W that is an emotional infant, this is a very refreshing experience. That is why I dig professor lady so much.
She's stable. Not a gold digger. She makes good money. Is a complete genius as a professor at 26. Plus, she smoking HOT, thin as a nail and has hoohaa's three times the size of my W's. Woah, did I say that out loud?
... not to mention, she's a definite physical touch LL person....
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
If all of those tings you said right there are true, then my advice to you is to file for divorce, asap. Might as well get that big "stop" sign hanging over your head to other women out of the picture.
If you are seriously, for real, done with your wife, that is.
I think it is great that you are dating. I was just busting you because it sounds like you are falling quickly for the professor. I strongly agree with the others that if you want to pursue her or OW and you believe that your M is over then take the action to ensure that your M is over and file.
Until the D is finalized go ahead and date, but date OW as well and take it slooooooow. You don't want to be 30 and D'd twice. Unfortunately, I have a friend who 32 and D'd 3x.
If all of those tings you said right there are true, then my advice to you is to file for divorce, asap. Might as well get that big "stop" sign hanging over your head to other women out of the picture.
If you are seriously, for real, done with your wife, that is.
I like the joking going on here when it's not directed at me 