I could if I didn't have to work and had tons of money to travel.
Sorry to say....this ^^^^ tells me that you have not finished the work on YOU. Why do I say this?
What if milk became scarce?
What if gas prices sky rocketed because we just found out we only have enough oil for ONE left on the planet?
What if we were in a global war?
What if you lost your job tomorrow?
What if in your country they just past a law that says 95% of your salary goes to the govt?
What if...what if...what if...
At some point we must all find happiness in the sitch that we are in. Travel and fine dining are great BUT is that all there is to life?
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He can't take hearing about how he hurt me in the past.
You mean he would not want to be reminded of everything wrong he did? The nerve of him! Personally, i wouldn't either - i would much prefer to focus on the positive and a future with positive as opposed to a past with hurt.
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he didn't want to compromise but I had to do it all.
For how long did you compromise? Did you give it your all? If you did, why are so angry still? Did he put a gun to your head and make you do it? OR did you do it because you loved him? Can you love and let go?
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Not so sure I can live with that anymore
You do not have to...you can decide to move on with your life at any point you feel. IMO, the question is "how" do you want to move forward?
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I will admit that what I said could make him feel like he was a big disappointment to me. That is who he is, I truly believe that is how he always was but over time, it got worse.
Nothing like positive reinforcement to entice someone to want to work on a M. Do you really think that you reminding him of YOUR hurt, you making him feel like a big disappointment is going to make him want to work on the M? And if you truly believe that this is how he always was - then really what are you trying to accomplish?
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As soon as I had a meltdown, he was gone.
I don't know enough about the meltdown but hey...it seems like you were beating on the guy.
Cat,
Here on the MLC board we try and work on OURSELVES and outlast our spouses MLC.
Having said this I will challenge you to do me a favor...
List out the issues you feel you brought into the M.
I dare ya!
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
