Why continue to take these calls? Why continue to allow yourself to be dragged into your H's nightmare.
Personally, I think it is time for Mila to cut off all contact and really just live for Mila.
F*ck what H is doing, what H is not doing.
It should be more about what Mila is doing.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Stoping in to say 'Hi'! It sounds as though you are quite busy these days, but be sure to know that we all are thinking about you and sending positive thoughts your way.
SA, Punkin, Eric & GAG thank you for your continues support...I love you all
Haven't been here for a few days, hope everyone is fine...will catch up with all the treads ASAP
....yes tons of things on my plate...looking for a job, talking to a lawyer, de-cluttering the house, slaving on the garden (hate leaves)...working in the business....my list is very long these days....pretty stressed out...
H had a "visitor" over the weekend...D reported that the woman had the guts to come to her place of work and started up a conversation with her...."It's so good to see you again xxxxx"...D said "it was not good to see her" that it was weird...she didn't want to talk to her.
The "romance" seems to be going strong... at least that's the face they put on...however last week H told me that he's been seeing a counselor "had to talk to someone"...were his words. Today I had a meeting with H....he doesn't look well...puffed up eyes...started crying as soon as we sat down, I didn't even say anything yet....had to excuse himself and leave for a few minutes to compose himself...said that he is just tired...and that he doesn't know why he is like that....he had a really hard time holding it together for the 20 minutes that we had talked.....all is not well in H's land.....
I'm trying to GAL as much as time allows...I go out regularly...it helps to de-stress...even going to a dress-up Halloween party lol
And I have a couple of nice guys texting and emailing me...and what the heck, I'm going out for dinner with one of them...just as friends....to talk about our MLC spouses lol. But I must say I'm starting to like the other guy quite a bit....does that tell me that I'm too detached now?
hugs everyone
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And this changes what? Before you answer...go read your old thread.
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But I must say I'm starting to like the other guy quite a bit....does that tell me that I'm too detached now?
Nope - tells me that you are human! That said, be careful...very careful. Make sure that you do not jump in head first...cause right now you and I both know that you are entering into dangerous territory. Plus....I'm concerned that he would have issues when I come to borrow the car
Stay strong Mila.
Your H sounds like he is in the midst of some serious issues that he may be facing. The loss of a business, the loss of his wife, etc.. So will Mila come running to the rescue OR will Mila continue on her path...and maybe just maybe...
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Eric & punkin - forgot to address your questions. It doesn't bother me that OW's H calls me...we really have become pretty good friends...yes we rant at the two "love birds" once in a while, but we have some laughs as well and talk about anything and everything, kids, work, vacations...just like good friends...we have gotten to know each other quite well...and no, we don't dwell on the situation...we have both dropped the rope are both moving forward.
And Punkin, no job yet...but working on it
cheers
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At the meeting today I was as cool as a cucumber...poised, calm...I did ask him if he was OK...it was hard not to when he was coming apart right in front of my eyes...but other then that I was as detached as I could be. The thought of sending him an email after, asking if everything is OK with him has crossed my mind....but only briefly....he is on his own.
If H is like this after a four day visit from the OW, then what's he going to do on his own the rest of the time. He is definitely going through some kind of meltdown but that still didn't stop him from asking about the progress of the SA that the lawyer is working on...
Ok, glad to know that I'm human Eric ...yes after a year and half of misery from H I do crave someone to be nice, attentive and interested in me...yes it's only human...but I'm not ready to cross the line yet...I'll be strong...lol you are safe for now Eric...borrowing my car...
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You are sounding good and strong! Taking charge! Hopefully your H is processing and moving forward through the tunnel! (tears etc.) In the meantime...onward ho! And...patience!
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It sounds as if you are on the road to redemption-for yourself. Your H, however, has to forge his own path. You sound strong and self-confident. And, as you pointed out in my thread, somehow peaceful.
Maybe those pesky planets are moving back where they should be.
...yes after a year and half of misery from H I do crave someone to be nice, attentive and interested in me...yes it's only human...but I'm not ready to cross the line yet...I'll be strong...lol you are safe for now Eric...borrowing my car...