Looking for help with WAW - 2

[mza8]

Hi 40. Good to hear from you. I'll have to read up on your sitch. I can see from your signature that you've endured a lot. Is your D final? I'm sort of interested in those who did D if they still hear from their spouse?

My W and I have no children so at least that's one less thing to worry about. I'm actually kind of sad we don't have kids. I think we were probably close to having kids before we separated...at least I would have liked to.

My W and I have been separated for a year. Got the D bomb three weeks after she left. Tried to DB the best I could for the past year with some ups and downs. I have regained my confidence back. I have reached the point where I know I don't NEED my W but I still WANT my W. My W and I have been through a lot and I know it hurt her. She's unable to get past the hurt right now. If she ever wanted to work on things I know I probably would...wouldn't play any games. Sadly I don't see that happening anytime soon. I'll never say never because I've seen too many people get back together after a D but we'll see. In the meantime I'll continue to keep my changes going strong for me.

My W and I have been together since HS so I know that's made it more difficult for me to detach. We really didn't date too many other people before we got together. I'm not ready to date yet. It's not something I need for me. I'm sure one day I'll take the leap to date but I'll let it happen in time.

Isn't it odd that we don't always get solid reasons why they left? You would think our Ws would at least give us that much. I think my W isn't able to be honest with me for some reason as to why she left. Yes, her reasons are her reasons, whatever they are. I know I'm mindreading as to why she left but that's all I can go on as she didn't give me reasons. You are 100% correct that we must make the most of life. It's good to hear that you are getting better each day. I think we will all be ok in time.