Your welcome BUT really YOU are doing this. You are making the choices. You are living your life.
You are correct that your H needs to do some serious work and you do as well.
As a man and former ch!thead H I can tell you that your H may come crawling back claiming change, claiming he has done the work. IMO, this becomes a very fine line that you MAY have to walk. How can you still show him some "hope" (assuming it is what you still want) yet not allow YOUR own in securities push you into a decision one way or another.
This could end up being a rocky road for you for a while especially if your H finally comes to the realization that he needs to do the work on himself and begins the process. I guess my point is this...
In your anger NEVER underestimate the human spirit and commitment that a person can make to change, when they finally reach "that" point.
Never - there are many examples of LBS's that have made significant changes in there life on these boards. If they can do it so can your H.
Whatever you decide and whenever you decide - make sure that you are at peace with your choice.
Finally, life is fluid, it flows and it changes! Change can be take place on many things....
People
Homes
Jobs
And
Even marriages! You can decide your done today, tomorrow, next year and you change your mind the very next day. Why?
Cause it is YOUR life Kissak!
Now go live it to the fullest and see where you want your life to go.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
