Can't blame her. It's so much easier on her afterall; why should she have to move right? She doesn't want to work on herself or the marriage...why should she have to move out on top of that?
Pinhead finally walks away....but will he be back tomorrow?
I remember when you use to hit me over the head with 2x4's telling me to detach. Now my sitch is easier than yours. My W left and went dark and we have no kids. So it was easier to detach due to my circumstances. Where are you with detaching? I know you are running; however, are you doing anything else for social interaction (no, not dating)?
I believe once you leave and detach as much as possible and continue working on being a better Pinhead that your W will take notice. And, well if she doesn't you will be in a better place and possibly ready for an R with somenone who appreciates who you are!