To answer everyone's questions, I have read all the links for MLC plus I have tons of books at home regarding this and infidelity. I do have Michelle's book : Divorce Remedy. I have read and reread them since April. From March - May 2010 I have done the LRT.
I totally disagree, I am not in shock anymore. I was back in March, April and May.
Yes, I have been trying to live my life as best as I could and I realize that I have to make myself happy, not my H.
Live my life to the fullest ?? NO, does anyone really? I could if I didn't have to work and had tons of money to travel.
I just don't know how to be anymore. Do the LRT or do things with H. I have done both. Sometimes it works and other times,not.
H tells me he will always love me, always be there for me, but wants to be friends. He can't take hearing about how he hurt me in the past.
The way that I see it and everyone else, he didn't want to compromise but I had to do it all.
Not so sure I can live with that anymore.
To me, marriage is a 2 way street. 50/50. Maybe 60/ 10 but nothing else.
I will admit that what I said could make him feel like he was a big disappointment to me. That is who he is, I truly believe that is how he always was but over time, it got worse.
It is all so complicated but I have been the one wanting this to work. He claims he did. But that lasted for 3 weeks. As soon as I had a meltdown, he was gone.
He has said to me many times, " doesn't it prove to you that I love you because I keep coming back?"
