While I know some of the other posters here are supporting you and looking out for you, I would avoid one size fits all interpretations of what is behind someone's affair or what explains it.
Who's doing that? I was specifically trying to figure out, for example, if OW's specific behavior might be turning off Zen's husband (rather than just assume it was, or -- opposite -- assume all's fine in paradise).
That seemed like a cheap shot to me, OYS2. If that wasn't directed at me, then maybe I'm misreading you. I'm just trying to help.
