I just left another post, but wanted to add one more thing. Go easy on the therapist appointment. Be patient with this. I believe you are close to where this could go OK but I don't think you're there yet. I'm sure you have a talented therapist eager to ply their skills and help you! And at the right time they can and will.
By all means - if your H brings it up - then without getting overly excited about it calmly let him know you think it would be a good idea, too.
