Many? Most? I wish I could believe that, but I don't
That is certainly understandable. And you may be right as well about the people coming to this forum - I don't have a good sense of that yet. I do see a lot of people in deep pain in their marriages. In the RL cases I am aware, things didn't "just happen" - whether "falling out of love" or even having As. There is always (in my experience) much more going on in the relationship. The other element is the fact (at least according to Harville Hendrix) that most relationship problems are actually based on each partner's individual issues. This is why, I believe, that the DB tack of working on oneself first is an effective one.
