So ABG, I respectfully disagree with your statement that I have propagated a "myth that is antithetical to DB".
Then we have a (respectful) disagreement. And if I had been addressing the LRT then I would agree more. However, what I was pointing out is that MWD disagrees with the statement that
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Sometimes, the spouse just doesn't love you anymore.
based on item 5 of The Relationship IQ Quiz. If 90% of the people here are in a LRT situation, then "Marriage Busting" would be a more appropriate name for the forum. I don't believe that is the case, however - and I find it hard to believe that MWD would set all of this up and call it "Divorce Busting" for just 10%.
Some marriages are intractable to anything, be it MC, DB, or similar. However, I also believe that this can only be discerned after a genuine effort has been made to, say DB and sincerely do the work. It may, as in your case, still proves futile as far as saving the marriage. However, in many (perhaps most) cases, it can.
Originally Posted By: flowmom
I think that her actual writings are far more helpful than some of the distorted ideas of DB on this forum. I actually would be curious to know what proportion of forum participants have carefully read DR.
I completely agree. Not that DB/DR are some kind of "gospel" or anything (as valuable and terrific as they are), but (as Frank V has pointed out) it is useful to use them as a key reference point and authoritative source about what MWD actually advocates (and what DB is and is not, back to the title of the thread).
