Thanks GAG. I will try to follow your advice but I must be honest and say that rather than go dim I really want to let him have it!
I just feel so confused by all this and atm I wish I'd stayed dark. Re-establishing dim is really hard once again but I have to do something for me. I am too obsessed with what H is saying and doing.
FIL and MIL say H likes his own space and ow is there when he wants and this suits him.
So I don't know whether H has let himself get really close and has then pulled back or if he just invited me for his parents.
Last night H came here and dropped MIL and FIL off to say goodbye. I asked him why he wasn't coming in as they were only staying for 30 mins and he said, "D is trying to study for an exam. She doesn't need me distracting her." If MIL and FIL were there distracting what difference would one more be? Then he came to the door to pick them up. It took all my energy not to knock him out with the door.
I love MIL and FIL but they like peace at all costs so they never challenge H. They said after lunch Sunday H went back and slept so he must have been tired and then he seemed happier after that.
So H cancelled our weekly dinner due last night so it will be interesting to see what happens next week.
