1. He is incredibly vulnerable to shame, especially around his family. His family loves me and wants me arround. He seemed to think I would step out of the way, and I did for a while. Not anymore. I visit with them regularly now.
2. Our daughter. She is 3 and it tears him up to see her hurting. I am also a great mom and he knows it. Keeping her from me only hurts her and ends up limiting the time he gets with her too. When he wouldn't spend time with me he lost all the dinners and home days he had participated in with both of us.
3. Money. I was a stay at home mom running a daycare out of our house when he dropped the bomb. I got a full time office job now that has slowed, but not stopped, our slide into debt. Every time we go through the budget it is also painfully obvious that it is his spending that is biggest the problem.
