WAW is ok with divorce

[Ready2Change]

Hi Broken,

Read as much as you can here. Read DR as ASAP, and do not let W see/read it. It is your play book.

You have many choices on how to handle this. I strongly recommend that you calmly give here a GUCCI or ALLEN A speech in person. Look up those users and see what they recommend over and over.

There are many reasons that I recommend this. I have read 50+ personal growth books since the bomb and countless posts on these boards. The things that work are counter-intuitive.

Here is a pattern to use to speak to W:

Make an Observation, your thoughts on the observation, your feelings on the observation, what you need.

You can spin this many ways, here is a simple one:

"Wife, This marriage is no longer working for me. I think it is best if you find a place to live as soon as possible. Two weeks should be plenty of time to find a new place. I will even help you pack."

I am sure I have posted better ways to state the same thing here:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1407102#Post1407102

The important part is to project to her that you do not want to be involved with her. She cheated on you and you do not tolerate that kind of disrespect. She is no longer welcome in your house.

Project that you are happy that you are free of her. She will get angry... Use the pattern above:

Calmly say "You look angry. I will not tolerate being yelled at. " Walk away.....

Read as much as you can until you understand why I recommend that you respond this way.....

Always respond, never react......

"I am thinking"
"I have not decided"
"I understand you feel that way"
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I wish you well.