She suggested I think of someone he respects and trusts to contact him and ask him out for a beer, man of course, and just try to get him reinvolved in his circle and hopefully find someone he can talk to besides the OW. He avoids all due to the MLC and feeling ashamed of his behavior. I am just not sure if this is ok, I have read so many times they have to go through their process in order to complete it and if they are pulled out or forced out too soon they will fall back at some point. I think it would make me feel better that someone reached out to him as I cannot help him, he refuses to discuss anything but kids and money. Is this too much meddling, apparently I am quite a control freak in his eyes anyway. What to do?
This is a bad bad idea.
It is you still trying to control and manipulate. If he thinks you are that way, do you really want to prove him right?
My H, returned from his first crisis, I am not sure why exactly, and years later, we found ourselves in the same place, only worse.
Same excuses, same spew, same behaviors, magnified about 10 times.
You must, for both of you, allow him to come through this or not on his own.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
