Sorry to see you here. There's a lot of great advice and experience here and it can go a long way in helping you through this. Much of what you will hear seems counter-intuitive, but trust me your experience is not unique and most of us have been through this.
It looks like to me that you need to take quick and immediate action. Stop groveling, crying and contacting her unecessarily. Go buy the Divorce Remedy book and read it...much of what you will hear on this forum will make better sense.
I would post questions and experiences on here and generally you'll get some good advice.
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
