Funny but true story. My job relocated me from California (San Jose) to New York (downstate, Hudson Valley) in 1995.
One day coming out of a meeting where I was in rather passionate disagreement about an objective, one of my superiors said to me, "Why are you bustin' my balls?".
I had never heard this expression, being from California and all.
My response? I was confused by this and said with that native Californian tone of irony, "Umm... I had and have no intention of doing anything whatsoever with your... ahem.. balls".
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Some thoughts. First, when you set a boundary, do an intervention, impose "tough love," the first reaction may be anger. In this case, you can't work on the relationship until that anger is processed. Second, I'm not buying that TKD should come before your marriage and be an exception to your boundaries. They can go to different classes, or even different schools, if necessary. Certainly, your son should not be in the same room as the other man.
Maybe I'm not clear on the facts, but that is just my impression.
Some thoughts. First, when you set a boundary, do an intervention, impose "tough love," the first reaction may be anger. In this case, you can't work on the relationship until that anger is processed. Second, I'm not buying that TKD should come before your marriage and be an exception to your boundaries. They can go to different classes, or even different schools, if necessary. Certainly, your son should not be in the same room as the other man.
Maybe I'm not clear on the facts, but that is just my impression.
Only school on this side of the state next closest is alabama. Son goes to junior classes. Not the same as EA. So that is good WAW is in with junior blacks possibility he could be there working on his levels but he is not tech and instructor. I am going to monitor this for while and see what and how transparent wife is. I don't know how far wife plans to persue tkd. I agree on all the anger emotions that is what I am getting in spades. Have to let her come to me now
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
Only school on this side of the state next closest is alabama. Son goes to junior classes. Not the same as EA. So that is good WAW is in with junior blacks possibility he could be there working on his levels but he is not tech and instructor. I am going to monitor this for while and see what and how transparent wife is. I don't know how far wife plans to persue tkd. I agree on all the anger emotions that is what I am getting in spades. Have to let her come to me now
People have insisted that their spouses quit jobs to avoid the OP. Maybe the timing is not right now, but ultimately if she can't pick another martial art school to rebuild trust, etc., she's not making much of an effort.
People have insisted that their spouses quit jobs to avoid the OP. Maybe the timing is not right now, but ultimately if she can't pick another martial art school to rebuild trust, etc., she's not making much of an effort.
Perfectly stated.
Originally Posted By: Pensacolabroken
small world indeed
Wanna go kick him for me? LOL J/J
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
