So here is a little more info on my H's behavior. A few weeks ago, when I had several indications that the possible EA had become a PA, my H's 2 most suspicious behaviors where a sort of cold or dead sound to his voice and on a night that he stayed in our house while D & I were on a camping trip he stayed in the much smaller and less comfortable guest bed. I later found out that possible OW lives with hep parent too, so the affair may have happened in my own home (Yuck!).
Since then, H became very irratic in his atitude towards me for about a week. One call he was friendly, the next one he was cranky and cold. Sometimes he wouldn't even say helo to me when I would call or he would call to tell our D goodnight. Then, suddenly, he started warming up, talking about his frustrations at work, communicating more about our D3.
Now H is comming around, taking the initiative to set 'family' times, asking to do things for me, asking to talk to me. Also, the cold tone is gone from his voice. He seems happy to see me, but starts to seem lost and sad after a while.
My 'gut instinct' tells me he wants to come home, but is overwhelmed by the mess he has made. While I am fairly certain the affair happened, I am not at all sure if is still going on, especially given his behavior the last few days.
I feel like if I confront him now I will lose all the progress we have made and push him back to the OW. On the other hand, if I have patience and wait, he may even be ready to start to work things out with me. Some times I think it is the most difficult when things start to get better. I want to rush forward, but I know I should keep holding back because it is working!
