if me staying around is a part of the reason she's in the fog, then moving out will remove some of it.
Pin this is the part I disagree with. Her being in a fog has NOTHING to do with you.
It is not your fault, its all on her. You moving out will be giving her space. But it will not snap her out of her fog.
You are making it easy on her, she has to look within. Your changes have nothing to do with her coming out of her fog either.
You make the changes for YOU!!! Not to win her back. When she comes out of the fog she will have to deal with the new you, but until she does, there is NOTHING you can do.
Only give her space. Go on living your life as if she is not coming back.
I think you have an EXPECTATION that by moving out you will save your marriage. What you are doing is very risky. I again would not suggest it. It goes against everything that I have learned here. I am not saying that it won't work but I have seen it backfire.
You really should be able to detach and let go with out YOU being the one to leave.
If she leaves you can not control that. But you can control YOU!
Hi Lance,
I've made the changes for me. I'm happy with them, the motivation behind them, and how they've affected my view of life. Yes I wished that she had said "Wow, you're a fantastic guy, where have you been hiding?" That would be icing on the cake for my changes. But the changes are great for me no matter what she does.
My moving out is giving her the space she wants. And I'll be living my life like she's not coming back. I'll have faith that I'll be okay, but I won't be pining away in my apt for her. I'll be praying that she finds some peace and happiness.
