Thank You Cat04,

That was great advice. Oh I have all the books here about MLC, infidelity and alcoholism. That was another issue but now I believe he isn't one but was drinking excessively because he was in pain. Of course he doesn't see it that way.

I will stay the steady course for now. I will not contact him but if he contacts me, I will listen.

I need some time again to think. What would have been my 30th anniversary is in less than 2 weeks. OUCH!!!

Then all the holidays start. Another OUCH!!!!

With my sons not around and living here by myself, it took a lot of getting used to.

Everywhere I go, it reminds me of the good times with H and I get sad. Sometimes I can smile for having those good memories.
My emotions are still all over the place.

I know I need patience and time. And most of all, Let it go and make myself happy. I do keep a journal of what makes me happy.

Thank you again.

You made it very clear for me.