If my W were to leave now, to separate like I am, I don't think I'd feel much differently towards the direction of our relationship. I have some irritation at having to leave my home, my comfort zone, and a sense that she's not having to make similar sacrifices. But those feelings are just feelings.
Just like you become attached to a person, you become attached to things and routines, and places and habits. Disrupt those, or even think about disrupting them too much and you become uncomfortable. I know that I'll eventually become comfortable in my new apartment, with my new custody arrangement.
Will I miss my wife? Surely. Will she miss me? Possibly. Surely to some extent, we've shared thirteen years together. I'm sure I'll cross her mind.
