none of the changes I've made in myself are helping her to see me differently, to feel differently towards me. She's happy I've made the changes, but they haven't helped her out of the fog.
Did you do them for you or to change her behavior because your M didn't get ruined overnight and it won't be saved overnight.
Also she has to see consistent action from you not just words.
You make insincere changes and she'll sniff you out like a drug dog at the Miami airport.
How long does that take? I don't know. How long is it worth to you? Is there another relationshipo out there for you?
Maybe. But you better be sure you figured out this one or you'll be back here again.
Originally Posted By: Pin
And if me staying around is a part of the reason she's in the fog, then moving out will remove some of it.
How do you know this ^^^^? You don't Pin and what makes you think that removing yourself from it will be better?
Detachment is harder when you live with the person BUT it can be done.
Originally Posted By: Pin
I've stopped trying to figure out why she's lost her way. Whether it was my neglect, or her childhood issues, or that she got married before really knowing herself, or if there was another man. It doesn't matter.
Good because you can't do this and it's not your job it's hers and she may never get to know herself.
No guarantees here friend.
You have already been to the well to drink the water and quench your thirst (1st M)
and now you are back at the well to quench your thirst again.
And you will always be thirsty until you drink from the water of truth.
YOUR truth.
No better time in your life to find what this means for you.
If ALL your answers are in your decision to go and they are confirmed by that
Then do it.
You did not answer my questions about your 1st M and how you would feel if she was leaving.
I am not questioning your honor, your courage or your integrity but you should make sure your choices
Align with YOUR answers.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
