That's when it hit me that I am going to be OK, and her problems weren't my problems, and that's when I was able to let go so that it was up to her what to do, and you know what?
She decided to win me over. Who'd a thunk it, eh?
That's terrific TH! (I assume that she did win you over?)
Perhaps the belief that your W didn't love you helped with detaching, and yet it turned out she did after all. It was the actions, not the beliefs, that turned things around. It sounds like what you did was DB to a T, and it worked.
If you had truly "moved on" then how was she able to win you back at all?
