It went fine, just a little akward. I think it was the first time that we really sat and talked about anything for any period of time. I stayed for about an hour. He is really the only person on "the other side" that has treated me with any respect. When his dietitian asked who I was, as in what relation, he told her I was his son inlaw. He did not have to do that because we are divorced. I would have expected to hear "X-SIL" from my X-MIL and I have known her for over half of my life!
There is a Dad and Donut day at my D8's school this friday and I told him that I would like to see him there. He accepted happily. Thanks for asking about it soleil.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
I still stay in contact with my in laws. My XW will not control who I will talk to or remain friendly with. That is MY choice not hers. She may get pissed but that's her problem to deal with.
So it really is all a personal decision for you how you handle this and anything else in the future. I do plan on going to my X MILs funeral as long as I get at least one invite.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me
I have an awesome relationship with my MIL. She effectively sided with me in all this, since she thinks her daughter is being selfish and foolish at the expense of her kids. I had absolutely no issue with embracing MIL's help and support. Truthfully, I really needed her to help care for the kids for a while after W left.
W responded with her usual erratic behavior. At first she considered that her mother betrayed her by siding with me (with the kids really), said she was "done" with her mother, blah, blah, blah. If I had a nickel for every time she said she was "done" with someone. The she put her therapist hat on and said I was using her Mom as a substitute for her. Wow, the ego she has. Then her attitude morphed into being glad her mother helped me so much, because I "needed" her. Lately it's back to feeling betrayed, as in "I'll never forgive her for not just loving me and supporting me." Her Mother never stopped loving her. She just refused to offer her support toward something she saw was destroying our family and hurting her grandchildren.
v1olin, you have every right to have whatever relationship with your XW's family you want. Her attitude about it is irrelevant.
My x mil is a huge enabler and I don't think this guy even knows what the two of them talk about. I don't think he knows about XW's EA at all but her Mom actually told her that God might have sent him(EA guy)to help her get through the divorce! I will go to x mil's funeral but that is all.
I am not completly sure how we are handling Halloween but I think XW wants to do it together. I am trying to think of ways I can leave her out of it. Any ideas? I need help, it makes me sick to be around her.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
What does your custody agreement say about Halloween?
I am in the same exact boat. W has kids on Halloween, and I would like to see them in their costumes, but I don't want to do anything with W at all. Our tentative custody agreement says I have the right to spend an hour with the kids on Halloween.
Not sure what is says about Halloween but my kids would be very upset if they don't get to see me. I was thinking about telling her that I don't want to see her at all but I am afraid that is not possible.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
My kids are with their father for this weekend. They come home on Sunday, so I think they will be home just a little early (6:30 instead of 7:30) so we can trick-or-treat here. They will get to cover two neighborhoods - and they aren't complaining about that!
Last year he had them, as well, and it was a Saturday - my son spent the weekend camping and didn't see either of us, and my daughter came to my house for a few hours to take advantage of the second neighborhood (and so I could do her makeup, etc.).
