WAW 20 Years. Divorce to maybe possible R

[Db9]

Pen, its not controlling to have boundaries in your relationship. You have to decide where your cut off is.

[Starsky309]

Yes. See my 15 previous posts to you. It's all in there.

[Steve McQueen]

I went to his FB page.. usually wide open mafia wars and farmville crap.. looks like lover boy is throwing a fit.. his page is now locked down to only friends. A change that coincided with my WAW de-friending him.. so maybe he is throwing a fit.. I need to be careful of the signals..

thoughts?

1. get a life

2. snooping on your wife's male friend's online activity is CREEPY.

3. how you are doing it does not work.
you are trying to control her
people get pissed off when they feel they are being controlled.
They flee. and want nothing to do with you.

You told her once you didn't like her talking with this guy.
everytime you see her now you bring it up?
you are just coming across as the annoying micro-manager.

4. calmly and rationally.
Know Yourself.
It is time you found your strengths and how to over come your weaknesses.

if you have been separated for 3 and 1/2 weeks
you should be well on your way to having an exciting future she should need to catch up to.

5. .When your ex says "you will never find anyone like me" and you reply "God I sure hope not..."

[Pensacolabroken]

Steve. You are correct on all points. I don't like some of the things I have done here. I may even be too late. Your points have sigificance. Thank you

[TimeHeals]

TH what does it mean in your sig, that you recieved a notice of reconcilation. Can I have a link to your thread on this. Thanks

It means my wife's attorney sent a notice to my attorney saying we had reconciled, and then my attorney sent me a notice telling me all of this and asking me to contact my attorney if I had a problem with that. Since my wife was the one who filed, this is the flow of things if she told her attorney "nevermind".

[TimeHeals]

If you have been seperated for 3+ weeks, and she is seeing somebody else, then why aren't you going dim?

Seriously, she violated a basic relationship boundary, and the hard part--getting her out of the house--has already happened.

If that is so, now is the time to make yourself scarce, and take the focus off her life and put it on making your life way better.

I didn't talk to my wife for more than 2 months after she moved out. It took her more than 3 months to stop being horribly negative about all things TimeHeals, and to be honest, I was pretty much ready to embrace a life without her at that point.

I had cooperated with a divorce, I had signed a seperation agreement, and do you know when my wife started to have second thoughts for real? Right around the time the quick divorce was about to be final. Then she had it postponed. Then she started working to get me interested.

[Truegritter]

Yes. See my 15 previous posts to you. It's all in there.

Who are you who are so wise in the ways of science?



Snakes and snails...

[Pensacolabroken]

Time,

she is still in the house. I told her she had to move out unless she broke all contact with OM. She did that yesterday. or so she says...

We are at the point now where she told me she ended him as a FB friend and she will not contact him and will disclose all contact to me.

she is undecided on what she wants next and I am doing my thing GAL and we have counseling on Friday.

I will know more of her intentions I am sure as the week goes on but for now I am detaching.

[Pensacolabroken]

oh and I am trying NOT to be controlling. Meaning I have shut my mouth... and I am just nodding in agreement...

[gutwrenching]

We are at the point now where she told me she ended him as a FB friend and she will not contact him and will disclose all contact to me.

Trust but verify...