Sometimes, the spouse just doesn't love you anymore.
Accept it, forgive and move on.
Honestly, that is the advice that I want to give 90% of the posters here. I hurt for the children and the innocent bystanders, but the LBS can move through the grief stages then start a new life...a happier one IME.
Unfortunately, this is the myth that is antithetic to DB, as I understand it. See p. 54 of DR (for those who require references).
