Hi everyone. I haven't found much reason to post the last few weeks, since things are still kinda flat-lining with my wife. She hasn't display much anger these last few weeks. Actually, there's been a couple of occasions where I've expressed a feeling about her behavior where she has responded in somewhat of a positive manner. As an example we had an argument a few weeks ago. At one point I expressed to her that, with this EA with DJ, I felt/feel she is/was repeating her history, as she essentially was involved in almost exactly the same type of situation when she date a married man 14 years ago. If I would have said this to her six months ago (at the extreme height of her anger/MLC) she would have blown up at me like Hiroshima. When I said it a few weeks ago she simply told me to shut up. I take that as a sign of progress... :o)
Also, just this past weekend she was trying to spend some time helping our son with his math homework. She is a nervous/anxious person in general, especially when it comes to something she really cares about (i.e. our son's school progress). When she was leaving our home to go back to her apartment, I told her that I understand how much she cares about our son's school work, but I felt that she should try be more relaxed with him. She simply replied "OK." Again, in the past this, she would have interpreted a suggestion like this as criticism, and she has never taken criticism well at all. The fact that she simply replied 'ok' was definitely a good thing coming from her.
Which brings me to the main question I wanted to ask from you all who have been at this for a long time. My wife got involved in her EA with DJ in July, 2009. Around August, 2009 she added him to her MSN Messenger 'friends' list, and he's been listed there ever since. Over this past year + on his profile I have seen him: add pictures of my family and remove pictures of his (when I snooped), change his relationship status from "married" (his wife) to "single" (a few months after he began speaking to mine) to a point a few months ago where he listed himself as "in a relationship." (I assume he 'thought' he was in a relationship with my wife... He's a psycho...) Anyhow, I stopped looking at his profile a few months, but saw that my wife continued to have him on her friends list...up until a few days ago. I hadn't logged into to MSN Messenger in a while, happened to log in the other day, and immediately notice that he is no longer listed as her friend.
Sooooooooooooooooooo, what do you all make of this apparent change of events? Do you all see anything [potentially] signficant in this? Have they gone 'deeper underground?' What gives??
