I am finding a lot of contradictions here

[Truegritter]

esp. after an affair but he will tell the truth if he sees it isn't going to work.

Does your life coach understand MLC? You will get a lot of well meaning advice from friends, family etc. At the end of the day no one can really understand what you are dealing with because they do not have the experience of what you are dealing with.

YOU have to make a choice here.

I asked you a question up there ^^^^^^

If you let others decide for you based on what THEY think is best for you

Well then...

You'll be living their life NOT yours.

This isn't easy stuff Cat45. It will take every shred of your resolve and being to become the person you want to be.

I had a good life but now it has all changed.

Who needs this at 56 ?

You have been very blessed if I may say so in your M till now.

Now it is time to discover what you meant all those years ago when you said I will love and honor you all the days of my life, for better or worse

We decide what to do with the worse.

Claims it wasn't going to work, that I didn't change. That I keep bringing up my hurts.

MLC (if you believe he is) will blame everyone BUT himself. You were responsible for his happiness all these years and now that this schidt has come home to roost...

Guess who gets blamed? Not fair right?

This isn't fair. Deserves got nothing to do with it (nickel Clint Eastwood)

My H is very stubborn. The way I see it, Mr. M sees it, and all our friends and our sons, he is a quitter. That I did 100% or more to work on us but he did nothing.

Martyr?

You mean you did all this work and you got nothing back?

That's not fair is it?

How would you want to be loved?

When you are quiet and peaceful?

Or

When you are so scared you lose your way, when you are so scared you RUN away?

You got some thinkin' to do and I have given you enough to chew on for now...