Hello and welcome to the MLC Board. Yes, this whole thing is chock full of contradictions. No two of us has exactly the same scenario in their situations, so you have to use some intuition here. Read the posts of others here. Find people who seem to be going through similar stages as you. Follow, no, Stalk those people. Even if you are not participating in the conversation, you will be learning. The same goes for advice. What works for one doesn't always work for another. Only you know where you are at in your R. Lots of times it is hard to get our emotions in check and make proper choices. That's why there is an unspoken 24-48 hour rule before a response if you feel provoked by your spouse. Give your mind time to compose and articulate.
Patience is a virtue, and a necessary trait here. Nothing about this goes fast and furiously. It is very, very slow. Some will make it, some will not, but not for lack of trying.
Read what others here have to say, and apply them to your own sitch.
Again, welcome.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
