It was always her dream that we would remain good friends through all this. I will not be around to take care of her when she is sick if some other guy is doinking her.
The delusion of many many WAS's is that somehow all they're doing is erasing your face from their "picture" of happiness and it only requires a slight shifting of a few pieces of....life...to make their world perfect. In their world, no one gets hurt except you and your pain is brief, and shallow and really, to them, it's your fault anyhow. In their world, THEIR happiness is contagious and the KIDS will be happier too, plus they're "resilient" anyway (most over used word in divorce) now that EVERYONE (except you but...never mind you) is so much more authentic and w/their soulmates and and blah blah blah. No sad tears, no sloppy feuds or desparate scenes or ugly fights or terrible phone calls or geal battles. No serious UNpleasant "consequences"...Yes it IS delusional.
But your last line made me laugh. Didn't even know the term "doinking"- but I think I like it.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
