Change is in the air........

[MHL]

Hey GAG,
Just catching up, seems like you are on the "LBS hampster wheel" and it is coming back around to hopeful feelings again......I am glad for you.

Just know that you will cycle back around again and that it is normal, or at least it is happening to me, soooooo that means it is normal....

I'm normal....right???

Just a little suggestion, and this is a hard one to remember. I think it is okay to ask your XH to the movies, however I am concerned about you.

The way you ask leaves you "standing by the window awaiting his answer", not a good place to be, huh? And you are the one that did it to yourself, and when he doesn't respond or he chooses not to go, it summons up some of that anger and sadness.

IMO a more direct/indirect approach would be in order.

Think about this for a minute.....you really don't care whether you go to the movies with your XH or not......

Really you would be content sitting in front of a wall watching paint dry as long as it was with him.....right?

The question you want answered is not does he want to see a movie or not or when or if he can or not.

You want to know if he would "LIKE" to do something with you, ie paint dry....LOL.

I have been around gritter to much, hitting this damn "enter" key too much.....all these spaces.

Try something like this next time......

Hey, Goodattitudeguy, would you like to go to a movie with me?

If, Goodattitudeguy says "yes", then you could say.....

that's nice, maybe I will say yes if you ask me sometime....

then smile,spin, and walk away and flip your hair the way you girls do when your trying to be cute.

Notice you did not ask him to the movies........

You asked if he would "LIKE" to go with you.....no specific time, day or anything, just if he would like to go. It is a closed ended question with only one logical response.

Hang in there, keep posting the positive stuff.

Cheers