So, He SAYS he FEELS validated...and we care about this why? I mean, so what? Big deal. Of course he says that, and even if he feels that (as opposed to convincing himself he does OR just lying b/c he doesn't want to admit feeling sad or lonely or doubtful) , the need to share that WITH HIS/YOUR DAUGHTER, is reflective of his need to reassure himself. And others...too much. It wasn't to be cruel but it is clueless. (sigh) What's new? Not relevant...
Look, the best advice I can give is to repeat what I and others have said, BUT to add that if you can do this new way of living fully, GAL, PMA, for 100 days... THEN you can reassess and recommit to it, in another chunk of 100 day increments. IT's enough time to assess whether any change has happened AND it's enough time to manage for you, meaning it's not so long that you can't imagine doing it. You can do this. Who knows? After one or 2 of these 100 day chunks, YOU may be in a good enough place to NOT want to do it for another 100 days b/c you've gone in a new direction...make sense? j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
