I intend to live forever - so far, so good

[Virtually_Handsome]

It means she is going to a wedding tonight.

After about three emails I put this:

So... I guess were are at that awkward spot, where someone actually has to suggest meeting. So, I'll suggest it.

Would you like to get together sometime this later this week, or this weekend?

At the end of a "chatty" email.

It worked. I don't know of a protocol! Some women want to talk on the phone first. All you can do is jump in, and see what happens. Remember, they are just as uncertain as you are most likely. They often want us to lead.

[TimeHeals]

So, American Conservatives have tea parties?

There are a bunch of people with a 1st grader understanding of why the "Boston Tea Party" happened (they think it was all about taxes... period, and they hate taxes--real deep understanding of history there) that have grouped together in antipathy of all things Government because they believe Government cannot Govern, so they'd like to Govern

Paradoxes and pure entertainment.

[newmama]

heck- I think you can suggest meeting without even saying it is awkward!

As for determining when she has kid free nights, that doesn't have to come up until you find out if she wants to meet.

She could have switched things around to go to the wedding but it isn't her normal kid free night!

[ClingingToHope]

Interesting story from Wall Street Journal. Short on specifics though.

http://tinyurl.com/workshame

Yeah, Newmama, that's what I'm wondering.

[ClingingToHope]

In at work. Splitting headache. Met friends last night and stayed out longer than I should have and drank more than I should have.

Just sent L a response to house questions from Tuesday meeting. The only one that makes sense is that STBXW keeps the house and makes payments and pays expenses until she can sell it for what we owe or refinance to get my name off of it. I realize this could take three years.

The other ones aren't options, they are worst-case scenarios.

I also expressed frustration that after eight weeks, that appears to be the only thing they discussed. That cost me $250 (his hourly rate) and they set another meeting for November to ... discuss the house?

I asked him if there's a way he can cancel these appearances if her L has nothing of substance to discuss. It looks like her L is just running up everyone's bills. There's been no proposal on anything since we finished mediation in April.

More stuff moved in. After work, I'll get my clothes, bathroom stuff and go to the store to buy a shower curtain and I'll be living at the house.

I have lots of cleaning to do Monday, Tuesday and Thursday though at the old place.

Another exchange of emails from Match_35. This one was interesting.

I asked her how was the wedding (she went to it alone) and told a story about taking D10 to a wedding a week after the M split up so I wouldn't be alone.

She said she got sad when all of the couples were called out to dance, thinking to herself "Why can they find someone and I can't?"

Then she asked if I've had any luck with dating? She said she gets a lot of attention and dates, but all of the men she's dated are only looking for one thing and she's not willing to give it them.

So ladies, break that one down, please.

[whatisis]

Then she asked if I've had any luck with dating? She said she gets a lot of attention and dates, but all of the men she's dated are only looking for one thing and she's not willing to give it them.

They're all looking for baking tips?

[ClingingToHope]

I waited until the end of the Sunday night football game and responded to Match_35. She's a super Packer fan so I figured there was no way she was going to check email during the game.

On the dating thing, I told her I spent all of 2009 in limbo and most of 2010 getting myself back on my feet financially so I'm really only now getting back into the dating world, then I said I'd like to take her out and asked what night of the week/weekend works for her.

So now I wait.

I have been dreading cleaning the apartment for days and this may be stupid, but I'm going to pay a co-workers daughter $100 to clean it for me.

That'll cut into what I get back on my security deposit, but I have another busy, busy week ahead -- I know Wii, I must rest -- and that takes a major load off my mind.

Now, I just have to get the rest of the little stuff out of there and leave the cleaning to someone else.

Last thing. Opening night of basketball season for our company team. Unfortunately, my foot is not good enough for me to do much more than a two- or three-minute stretch to rest people.

I may be retiring.

[ClingingToHope]

I'll be going on my first official date -- not just a friends thing. Match_35 accepted. Now we just have to figure up date and place.

Girls got dropped off at house. Both love their room. Cable is hooked up. Now I have to just keep grabbing stuff from the old apartment.

[v1olin]

Cool, just remember, there are plenty of women out there if this one does not work out.

[whatisis]

OK, I'm the wet blanket...again! But, what is this obsession with dating? Your D is still in the works and you still, understandably, continue to talk about the pain you feel regarding the process and the loss/betrayal you feel. You're still in a lot of friggin' pain, my friend, and yet somehow you think this is the perfect time to turn on the charm with the ladies? I'm truly baffled! All I can think is that you're trying to drown the hurt with validation and, honestly, that's not fair to the ladies you date nor to your own healing. Anyway, that's just my opinion (and I'm probably alone with it!) and don't feel you need to reply. I won't keep coming back and driving you nuts with the same message. It's now been said.
Hey, enjoy the new living quarters!