What is and is not DBing

[OneLessWife]

Do you have to completely detached for the LRT to work. Also can someone give me the link to Gucci's setting them free thread.

[MrBond]

I don't think you understand detachment. Detachment is detaching your feelings from your S so that no matter what you do or how they react, you aren't hurt emotionally. It's like seeing them as a friend and not as a S.

You need to detach regardless of what actions you do. It's not a 'tactic'.

[OneLessWife]

Thanks I understand now, being just like a good friend only do not let them be mean to you because you would not let a friend be that way.

[OneLessWife]

Mr Bond do you know the thread I am talking about from Gucci "setting them free" I cant seem to find in the search.

[MrBond]

There are alot of posts from him about that. Sorry I don't know the exact link address.

What have you been doing to live YOUR life. Forget about your W for now. What about YOU?

[OneLessWife]

Well I see my C for the first time this week. Also have been interacting with my girls as often as I can. Also I have a thread going in the Newcomers section Called Help, Help Help I am Desparate.

[Frank V]

If you read the Last Resort Technique from the DR text it is pretty much the same concept as setting them free...

[OneLessWife]

Thanks FV, I already have but everyone says that Gucci tells it better and that's why I wanted to find the thread.

[Ready2Change]

DBing is DOING WHAT WORKS to BRING MORE LOVE into your relationship

I have noticed that WHAT WORKS is counter intuitive. If I am attracted to a woman, and ACT AS IF I don't want to have sex with her, she want to have sex with me. I think it is CRAZY, but I KNOW IT WORKS, so I do more of it.

[v1olin]

DBing is DOING WHAT WORKS to BRING MORE LOVE into your relationship

I have noticed that WHAT WORKS is counter intuitive. If I am attracted to a woman, and ACT AS IF I don't want to have sex with her, she want to have sex with me. I think it is CRAZY, but I KNOW IT WORKS, so I do more of it.

Sex DOES work so I do more of it.