How should H act if he wants a R ?

[MrBond]

You seem to be all over the place right now. If it was MLC, there's usually some kind of a major life change to act as a trigger, such as a death in the family, birthday, empty nest...just something that would make someone re-think their life choices.

Next thing is you have to understand that regardless if it's an MLC or not, you cannot predict or control the other person's actions. They are going to do what they want to do. The only thing you can do is change your actions and see what happens.

There are no guarantees as to if you act a certain way, he will also. I know it's hard to follow, but it is what it is.

Remorse is a result of when he has hit rock bottom and looks back and realizes that he has no one else to blame for his sitch but himself. What have you been doing for yourself? Have you been living YOUR life to its fullest?