Snodderly says to be patient with MLC's , We have to remember to treat them kindly and with compassion during this time. have patience and respect their wishes to be alone, and above all else, when they do make contact, be a true friend and not make demands upon them.Please remember to just be a friend for now. It will pay off in the long run. BUT then Michelle's book says to stay away, you know the Last Resort Technique. So, what should I do? Be compassionate, patient and be a friend OR stay away ? Then if he wants to R .....how should I expect him to act towards me? No one has answered this question. Should I expect him to show remorse? If so, how does one show that ? My husband wasn't exactly calling me, emailing me, etc. He really didn't want me around all the time. He kept saying, " let's take it slow and see how it goes." Meanwhile he was out with friends drinking, out to dinner etc. He wanted his single life more than me, at least that is how I perceived it.
Right now? Your perception isn't all that wrong.
But this is a long game, think more like chess less like tic-tac-toe.
There are not quick fixes here, or elsewhere o this board. If there was, The site would cost money and the book would be thousnds of doallars. : )
Snodderly is right patience is your best AND most hated ally.
LRT...
can you do it?
Most people cannot right off the bat. Most people don't have the ability skill or mind set. Most lash out in anger most make mistakes that compound the situation they find themselves in. Some come out bitter.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
